Teaching children R-E-S-P-E-C-T .. and a contest!


I am again the guest of Sonshine Radio DZAR 1026 AM on Thursday, August 20, from 10-11 am. The topic is Teaching Children Respect. Can you help me out?

Cite an incident wherein you were able to teach your child or student how to respect

  • possession (i.e. preschoolers grabbing each other things)
  • territory (i.e. personal space, bullying)
  • identity (i.e. appearance, SpEd needs, gender)
  • authority (i.e. elders, teachers, parents, flag)

Submit your answer as a comment to this post. Don’t forget to put your name and e-mail address.

As a way to give back to the enormous response to this blog, I am giving a Moleskine Notebook to the lucky participant who will be drawn on the morning of August 20 and it will be announced on the air 🙂

I know there’s Online Live Streaming of the show. I’ll update this post once I find out the site.

Live Streaming for the show is at http://www.sonshinetvradyo.com/ or you can tune in DZAR 1026.

7 thoughts on “Teaching children R-E-S-P-E-C-T .. and a contest!

  1. On Territory
    I always tell my students to tell the other kids if thy are hurting (physically and emotionally with their jokes), and disturbing them to say” Please stop. You’re hurting me (physically)”/ “Please stop, I dont like your joke about me”/ “Please stop. You’re disturbing me”. I tell them that the other children may not know that they’re already hurting you so you have to tell them. If they dont stop, go away and then tell the teacher.

  2. I always ask them “How would you feel if they did that to you?” Often, that’s when they realize what they should do. 🙂

  3. I remember my 7 year old cousin JV, once cut the line and step on a man’s toes. I apologized to the man, for him, because JV didn’t listen to my call after that incident.

    As we were walking in the mall, I was thinking of a way to talk to him about what he did. Suddenly, as we were lining up to buy ice cream, one kid cut into the line and accidentally stepped on his toes. The kid said sorry to JV. JV’s reaction was saying ouch and looked up to me. I then said, ” That’s what you did kanina and you didn’t even say sorry to the man.” I know from JV’s look that he remembered what I was talking about and I know he learned the lesson.

    After that, I never saw him cut a line or leave without saying sorry when he hurt someone. Sometimes, it’s easier to teach them about things when they themselves experience it. I believe nothing can beat this.

  4. Five year old children usually have lots of stories to tell in class. Being so, Free Play time is really not enough for them to tell stories to each other, often varying from cartoons they have just watched, or their recent activity with their families. One Meeting Time, I noticed how some of the children covered their ears, getting disturbed by those who were talking to each other. As I cannot just ignore that, I called the class’ attention and acknowledged the happiness that I saw from the children who talked to each other, but, also reminded the class one thing: that we in class, can show respect to other people (their classmates, in our case) by keeping quiet in their seats at times and acknowledging that their seatmates also want to listen to what teacher says. From then on, my 5 year old children remind their classmates themselves. 🙂 I think that this kind of respect is one that is often ignored but which is very basic and understandable. 🙂

  5. While in grad school, I worked in a full-day program for toddlers. I worked in Pacific Oaks College Children’s School where children are given opportunities for conflict-resolution and negotiation.

    As a teacher, when we see two children fighting over a toy, rather than stepping in right away, we give them the freedom to work through the conflict. As teachers, we facilitate the conversation rather than dominate the conversation.
    Instead of forcing the child to say “I’m sorry”, we process the situation with the child. We ask them questions such as: “Do you think it’s okay to do that?” “Do you think your friend would feel safe when you fight over a toy?” We give them time to process things, to think through their actions rather than pushing them to react right away just to resolve the conflict immediately.

    In The Children’s School, you would hear words such as: “It’s not okay to do that” or “I feel safe when you do this”. Children are then exposed to positive words that they could use in communicating their needs, and furthermore, would instill respect for others.

  6. 1. To show respect is a behavior whereas respect itself is an emotion. For children to learn what respect is, they should feel how it is to be respected. With this note, I do modelling in teaching children about respect. Saying things like sorry, sharing your food with the kids, respecting their emotions if they are angry or sad are just few ways of modelling respect.
    2. Process the situation immediately. I believe that the strategies to be used depend from one child to another. Depending on the child’s individual characteristics and maturity.

  7. Hi Teacher Tina!

    May I give an example on another category? Respecting the law. My husband and I are connected with the legal profession and we try our hardest to make sure we set a good example for our children. We make sure we follow traffic rules like refraining from beating the red light and not passing through the yellow lane. We also teach them to give way to pedestrians and cross the street only via the pedestrian lanes (if there’s one).

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